Tuesday, April 24, 2012

What I Know For Sure

I'm getting married in 19 days.

And with that deadline has come a daunting collection of to-dos that somehow manages to get longer everyday. Planning a party for a hundred or so people is no small feat. But planning the same party with an abundant list of peoples opinions about how it "should" go, traditions that are important to so and so, and inevitable emotional ties, makes planning a wedding a full-time job.

I've spent days, weeks, and months plotting who, what, where, when, how, who should do what, where they'll sit, what color they'll be wearing, who will take the picture, what to do if it rains, and how to maintain an inch of sanity in the process (the last one being the most difficult). And we're planning a "simple" affair on a limited budget!

Therefore some re-framing is necessary.

Heather dear, it might rain.
All the pictures might need to be taken indoors.
People might get wet. And muddy.
The photographer might slide off the muddy road in a crazy car accident and be unable to make it.
I might wake up with one (or more likely five) zits on my face.
I might get the flu.
My wedding dress might not fit.

Or I might spill coffee on it.Someone might lose the rings.
So and so might insist on being upset and not smile in a single picture.
Someone might have expectations that were not met.
We might not get the time we wanted to chat with people we love.
The whole day may not go as we planned.

But amidst the inevitable chaos and quickness of the day, in the end, I'll be driving away with the man of my dreams and we'll be husband and wife. That's the only thing that I know for sure: that I'll be his and he'll be mine.
And we'll be exhausted.
But so happy.


Emily said...

It might rain. It will still be beautiful. The pictures might have to be indoors. They'll still capture beautiful memories. You might have zero zits or five. You'll still be beautiful. You might get the flu. You'll have 100+ people that love you and think you're beautiful even looking green and feeling awful. You'll wear that dress and look beautiful, can wear a trash bag over it while you're sipping your coffee, find the rings if they're lost, photoshop cranky people out of all the pictures, forget appeasing those crazies because it's not their wedding, probably won't get to chat with everyone but they'll love you anyway, and the day will certainly not go as planned.

It's just a party. The marriage is the real big deal. And what I know for sure is that if there is anyone that will give marriage their whole heart, it's you and Jeremy. And we'll all be cheering for you every step of the way... rain or no rain. :)