Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Rumble Strips

Dear Child,

It seems you've hit a rumble strip. Don't worry, no matter how good a driver you are, we all hit 'em. Often. Sometimes absentmindedly, sometimes intentionally, sometimes large, sometimes small. Rumble strips happen to all of us. They are there to guide us back to center. This isn't a judgement. This is an observation. And one you'll need to accept if you want to move forward.


Stop. Stop everything. Only do what is necessary to survive. Eat. Sleep. Go to the bathroom. Go to work. Not forever. Just for this moment. Surrender.

Now consider what is scaring you, worrying you, burdening you, hurting you. Is there any light in this apparently dreary reality? This isn't a speech about "looking on the bright side". This is a reflection on how this really hard thing is growing you, even in minuscule ways. There is growth and healing in dark moments. If not exclusively in dark moments.

Your attention is what steers your life. It's more pleasant to steer focusing on the good instead of fixating on the rumble strips. But the bumps will happen and when they do:
-give yourself grace
-slow down and simplify
-redirect your attention to a hopeful future

Keep traveling the precarious road of life. I'll be here for you. I'll guide you back home.

With love,

P.S. This letter written with heavy inspiration from Martha Beck's recent column entitled "Off the Beating Path."


Emily said...

Mmm... I needed this.